Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know
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Perfect for Father’s Day， a critical read for all dads seeking to connect with their daughters and raise confident young women in today’s increasingly complicated world。
Drawing on her thirty years' experience practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine， teen health expert Dr。 Meg Meeker explains why an active father figure is maybe the single most important factor in a young woman's development。 In this invaluable guide， Meeker shows how a father can be both counsel and protector for his daughter as she grows into a spiritually and mentally strong young woman。
From cradling his newborn to walking her down the aisle， a father must relish his paramount responsibility—guiding the course of his daughter’s life。 Meeker reveals
• How a man can become a "strong father"
• How a father's guidance influences every part of a woman's life， from her self-respect to her perspective on drugs， alcohol， and sex
• How to lay down ground rules that are respected without creating distance in your relationship with your daughter
• Why you need to be your daughter's hero
• The mistakes most fathers make—and the serious consequences
• How to help daughters make their own good decisions and avoid disastrous mistakes
• How a father's faith will influence his daughter's spiritual development
• How to get through to you daughter， even during her toughest don't-talk-to-me years
• True stories of daughters who were on the wrong path—and how their fathers helped to bring them back
Learn how to grow， strengthen， or rebuild your relationship with your daughter to better both your life and hers in the bestselling Strong Fathers， Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know。
Drawing on her thirty years' experience practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine， teen health expert Dr。 Meg Meeker explains why an active father figure is maybe the single most important factor in a young woman's development。 In this invaluable guide， Meeker shows how a father can be both counsel and protector for his daughter as she grows into a spiritually and mentally strong young woman。
From cradling his newborn to walking her down the aisle， a father must relish his paramount responsibility—guiding the course of his daughter’s life。 Meeker reveals
• How a man can become a "strong father"
• How a father's guidance influences every part of a woman's life， from her self-respect to her perspective on drugs， alcohol， and sex
• How to lay down ground rules that are respected without creating distance in your relationship with your daughter
• Why you need to be your daughter's hero
• The mistakes most fathers make—and the serious consequences
• How to help daughters make their own good decisions and avoid disastrous mistakes
• How a father's faith will influence his daughter's spiritual development
• How to get through to you daughter， even during her toughest don't-talk-to-me years
• True stories of daughters who were on the wrong path—and how their fathers helped to bring them back
Learn how to grow， strengthen， or rebuild your relationship with your daughter to better both your life and hers in the bestselling Strong Fathers， Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know。
Reviews
Jeremy
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More preachy than pertinent， this book is the typical fear-mongering drivel more appropriate for the tabloids。 Filled with stranger-than-fiction anecdotes that scare more than inspire， it is not worth the paper printed on。 The only saving grace is a drinking game you can play every time the phrase “smoke dope” and its derivations are uttered。 You’ll be so drunk the reading will become high comedy （pun intended）。
mark chavez
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Really good book Really good book。 I highly recommend。 Christian or Non Christian it is important for us as fathers to be positive and encouraging to our children。 We must lead and invest our time to being “STRONG FATHERS”
Caleb Anderson
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Terrifying。 I've got 6yo and newborn daughters and am excited to see them grow up but nervous。 So many things are trying to sexualize girls and boys and this book gave me plenty to think about how to talk and guide them through the trash。 Terrifying。 I've got 6yo and newborn daughters and am excited to see them grow up but nervous。 So many things are trying to sexualize girls and boys and this book gave me plenty to think about how to talk and guide them through the trash。 。。。more
VBergen
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There is one chapter about religious stuff， and few mentions here and there， but setting aside the religious talk， and a couple of exaggerations due to religious views， I think it is a good book。 The reason for the three stars is that it is too repetitive。 The book could have been way shorter。 If I could summarize it， it would be "dads， spend quality time with your daughters， and be a moral example for her， strong， brave， protecting her because from that depends how she faces life and what kind There is one chapter about religious stuff， and few mentions here and there， but setting aside the religious talk， and a couple of exaggerations due to religious views， I think it is a good book。 The reason for the three stars is that it is too repetitive。 The book could have been way shorter。 If I could summarize it， it would be "dads， spend quality time with your daughters， and be a moral example for her， strong， brave， protecting her because from that depends how she faces life and what kind of man she will choose as a husband"。 The end。 。。。more
Dominic Mozel
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Enjoyed some of the lessons。 Didn't agree with everything but that is normal。 Enjoyed some of the lessons。 Didn't agree with everything but that is normal。 。。。more
Michael
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"You can still watch your sportsball， just don't go out golfing with the boys when you've just learned your daughters been raped！！" "Don't give your daughter a boob job as a graduation gift。"-Some wise advice from Dr。 Meeker。This book is pretty corny。 Maybe I'd give it 2。5 stars。 But overall her message is good。 A father's role is to keep his daughter grounded in this filthy degenerate society。 She has some good tips and some of the anecdotes are nice。 Others raise an eyebrow and those seem to s "You can still watch your sportsball， just don't go out golfing with the boys when you've just learned your daughters been raped！！" "Don't give your daughter a boob job as a graduation gift。"-Some wise advice from Dr。 Meeker。This book is pretty corny。 Maybe I'd give it 2。5 stars。 But overall her message is good。 A father's role is to keep his daughter grounded in this filthy degenerate society。 She has some good tips and some of the anecdotes are nice。 Others raise an eyebrow and those seem to stick in my head the most。 One thing about this book that bugs me is that it's supposedly written from a Christian perspective for a Christian audience。 It promotes chastity， but not for the sake of virtue。 It promotes chastity because STDs are yucky。 She's a physician so I guess that's her domain but it's kind of a copout in my opinion。 Not to mention how this line of reasoning rarely if ever works with teenagers。 。。。more
Colby Greuel
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I liked the book simply for thought provoking aspects。 It did have opinions in it like other reviews mention and some odd stories but I don’t think the opinions are necessarily a bad thing。 Lots of books have opinions。 I do hate though that there is kind of a blur between scientific facts and opinions。 But yet again， she has a very professional opinion based on her occupation。
Ben Troutman
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What good dad doesn’t want the purpose of his time with his daughter to help her walk away feeling better about who she is？ This incredibly inspiring and practical book by （Traverse City resident！） Dr。 Meeker reminds us dads that love is really about self-sacrifice。 I need to live it， so she （my daughter） will get it。 Do I live my life as a father with integrity？ Am I honest？ Do I work hard？ “Truth heals， and truth sits at the core of integrity。” （155） Am I loving and protective？ Meeker’s book u What good dad doesn’t want the purpose of his time with his daughter to help her walk away feeling better about who she is？ This incredibly inspiring and practical book by （Traverse City resident！） Dr。 Meeker reminds us dads that love is really about self-sacrifice。 I need to live it， so she （my daughter） will get it。 Do I live my life as a father with integrity？ Am I honest？ Do I work hard？ “Truth heals， and truth sits at the core of integrity。” （155） Am I loving and protective？ Meeker’s book urges me - and shows me how - to explain why my daughter is significant， where her real values come from， and why she needs others， especially me。 And with this toxic， popular culture， I need to defend my daughter’s right to be a kid。 Birth control is NOT the solution as depression， STDs， and low self-esteem become the bigger problems。 Strong Fathers， Strong Daughters teaches fathers how family and God are the real center of our lives， and shows how to teach their daughter humility， the rewards of helping others， and how to look beyond herself。 。。。more
Robert
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Very helpful perspective。 Picked up a lot of ideas on how to better father my two daughters。
Mike Sheridan
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A little dated， ipods and blackberries， but still solid and still relevant advice for the most part。 Would love to see an updated version with updated statistics and data。
Allison Cornman
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0 out of 10。 Lost me at “stay in an unhappy marriage for the kids”
Boris Vida
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Summary: As a father， be a perfect person。 It's good for your daughter。 Summary: As a father， be a perfect person。 It's good for your daughter。 。。。more
Patrick
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My wife suggested this book to me as one that her her Uncle that she is close to recommended。 I have two daughters and can get on board with the premise。 I would love to do just about anything to improve the lives of my daughters so I read this book hoping to pick up a thing or two。 From the start of the book I picked up a heavy religious influence which put me off quite a bit。 We teach to be a good person and people can believe what they want。 The religiousness made it difficult to keep reading My wife suggested this book to me as one that her her Uncle that she is close to recommended。 I have two daughters and can get on board with the premise。 I would love to do just about anything to improve the lives of my daughters so I read this book hoping to pick up a thing or two。 From the start of the book I picked up a heavy religious influence which put me off quite a bit。 We teach to be a good person and people can believe what they want。 The religiousness made it difficult to keep reading， though I did skip the specific chapter on "helping your daughter know God。" The majority of this book just made me feel awkward in weird ways。 I felt like I was being told to constantly be looking over the shoulder of my daughter and never trust her to make any decision that I didn't have a hand in crafting。 It made me as a father seem like a bumbling idiot most of the time and even suggested that I as a father stay with a "crazy mother" （different issue） to maintain a "complete family" dynamic。 I can't imagine the pain and trauma that some girls would have to endure with families that "stay together for the kids" even though they have terrible problems together。 Overall， quite a bit of this book seemed like basic info; stay involved with your daughter， teach her good lessons， help with homework and get her to ask for help when she needs it instead of making decisions based on passion， drugs， alcohol， or peer pressure。 。。。more
John
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Personal take-aways:Book is out-dated in its references， and Dr。 Meeker repeats many of the same points throughout all the chapters。 It emphasizes authoritative parenting and strongly encourages the father to teach faith to her daughter -- I probably wouldn't recommend it to a client who is not seriously religious。 But the book contains many important messages and serves to motivate the father to be very engaged， very intentional， virtuous， protective， firm with expectations， and warm。 Ultimatel Personal take-aways:Book is out-dated in its references， and Dr。 Meeker repeats many of the same points throughout all the chapters。 It emphasizes authoritative parenting and strongly encourages the father to teach faith to her daughter -- I probably wouldn't recommend it to a client who is not seriously religious。 But the book contains many important messages and serves to motivate the father to be very engaged， very intentional， virtuous， protective， firm with expectations， and warm。 Ultimately， it leaves me wanting to be very close with my future daughter and to make sure that I am being intentional in creating firm boundaries for her own sake。 Our culture is pretty rotten and parents tend to err on the side of being too permissive or trusting。 This book challenges fathers to be the Godly father that your daughter needs and ultimately wants。 。。。more
Logan Krueger
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Incredible book filled with practical knowledge and advice。 This book is loaded with factual information that will give your daughter the best shot at fulfilling her God-given purpose in the healthiest way possible。 I will do my best to reread this book every time my daughter enters the next stage of life。
Ádám Tóth
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Had to put down after two chapters， but I can write a pretty good summary about those。First chapter gets immediately into the middle of things: it's about the effects of early exposure to sexual topics。 I think the main emphasys is on homosexuals， and it describes how upsetting can it be for kids to learn about their classmate who has two fathers。 At one place homosexuality is mentioned in the same category as pedophilia - but only in one place， because the later is mentioned only once in the ch Had to put down after two chapters， but I can write a pretty good summary about those。First chapter gets immediately into the middle of things: it's about the effects of early exposure to sexual topics。 I think the main emphasys is on homosexuals， and it describes how upsetting can it be for kids to learn about their classmate who has two fathers。 At one place homosexuality is mentioned in the same category as pedophilia - but only in one place， because the later is mentioned only once in the chapter， while the former is like 10+ times。 It also has a lot of implicatons that masturbation is bad， porn is bad， we live in the times of sin， and if a girl cannot talk to her father it means she will drink， use drugs， be a prostitute and commit suicide by like the age 13 （mostly because even in the schools they can mention that homosexuality exists）。Second chapter will be better， right？ It's about the most important feature of a father - strictness。 It says things like "if your two year old daughter cries， send her to her room and only talk to her when she stopped it。 Same goes for a 16 year old girl， even if you give her a confinement for a month。 She lives under your hood， she must do what you say。" The personal story she bases this on is that when she was 20， she was only allowed to go to a restaurant with his boyfrient till midnight。 When they forgot the time， her father came to the restaurant at half past midnight， get to a public speaker and announced that she must immediately get to the car and come home - publicly shaming her in front of the entire restaurant。 And that is stated as a good thing。I cannot describe how incredibly upsetting this book is。 It is written by a conservalist， deeply religious doctor， who most likely thinks herself as a psychologist （completely blurring the lines between these fields） and draws incredibly far-fetched universal "truths" from stories about her patients， where most likely only she made up the connections between any family issue and the life choises she talks about。You would think that it has at least some kind of scientific background or research， but all of the publications used in the book are basically in a bullet list in the first chapter， only mentioning their results and nothing more about them。 The other 220+ pages are only based on personal stories seen by the author。What is most upsetting for me is that between the parental abuse disguised as strictness， anti-gay and religious propaganda， one liner judgements like "you should stay in marriage， no matter how bad it is， only because of your child" it is never mentioned that a father must love or accept his child。。。 I think the closest you get is in the introduction: "you should believe in her that she can be at least a doctor"。 。。。more
Matthew
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Excellent book。 Absolute must for ALL Fathers。 Even if you do not agree with it in part or whole the narrative of a successful， fully mature woman is an excellent perspective for most open-minded men。
Mark Evans
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Good book that highlights the impact a father has in his daughter’s life。 The book would benefit from a more robust Christian foundation of God’s grace， goodness， and power - she has lots of talk of connecting with your “pastor， priest， or rabbi” and that lack of rich theology underneath was frustrating but maybe that inclusivity was forced by the publisher。
David
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Some really good advice to help he a good father to daughters。 Meeker lays out some principles that helo dads understand the unique and significant needs of a young girl’s heart， and encourage dads to fill the role God has designed for them in the development of their daughter。
Timothy
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This was a challenging book to read and gave me a lot to consider。 I can't look at my daughters the same way。 Being a father isn't easy and the task shouldn't be taken lightly。 Dr。 Meeker's theory of depression as an STD is spot on。 I would whole heartedly agree that there is no such thing as casual sex。 Sex apart from a deep emotional connection will yield empty feelings of regret and loneliness。 I found the book repetitive at times。 There's a lot of overlap between the 10 secrets， but I do fee This was a challenging book to read and gave me a lot to consider。 I can't look at my daughters the same way。 Being a father isn't easy and the task shouldn't be taken lightly。 Dr。 Meeker's theory of depression as an STD is spot on。 I would whole heartedly agree that there is no such thing as casual sex。 Sex apart from a deep emotional connection will yield empty feelings of regret and loneliness。 I found the book repetitive at times。 There's a lot of overlap between the 10 secrets， but I do feel Dr。 Meeker drives each of her assertions home with an abundance of data and examples from her practice。 The book made me curious as to what most women think of the book and Dr。 Meeker's assertions， but in reading the acknowledgements it seems many women helped her in the endeavor。 I think she would agree to John Eldridge's argument in Wild at Heart that our society is suffering from the systemic de-masculinization of our society and that manhood， just as much as womanhood， should be celebrated as having a unique role in our society， just as womanhood should as well。 In short， husbands can't do it without wives and neither can wives do it without husbands。 Dr。 Meeker's discussion on eating disorders， while concerning， was very helpful。 Overall， the book was probably a little longer than need be， but the examples and explanations were serendipitous。 It was a great book to remind me of the gravity of my responsibilities to my daughters and the burden I have the great pleasure of bearing to do everything I can so they might have a brighter future， with a loving husband， and a deeper relationship with their heavenly father。 Below are some specific thoughts on the 10 secrets。-------------------------------------------------------------1。 You Are the Most Important Man in Her LifeThis one about sums up the others。 It's such a necessary reminder though that even the little things I do with my daughters can have a lasting and profound impact on my daughters。 There is no aspect of her life that I don't have some influence over and that's a little terrifying。2。 She Needs a HeroIf I her to have a man who will fight for her， shouldn't I be willing to do so too？3。 You are her first loveAs #1 states， it's my job to set the stage in what she needs to expect from a man in her life。4。 Teach her humilityI think I could replace "her" with "your children。" Humility makes all your children feel significant， strengthens their relationships， keeps them balanced， and keeps them in reality。5。 Protect her， defend her （an use a shotgun if necessary）A doctor just gave me permission to use a shotgun to intimidate suitors。 Yes。6。 Pragmatism and Grit: Two of Your Greatest AssetsI almost felt like this chapter was saying， "teach your daughter how a man thinks。" I think women and men do think about things differently and I think having that blended response to situations and life circumstances is invaluable。 Allowing your daughter to see that interaction with your wife is precious。7。 Be the Man You want her to MarryI am the most important man and will shape her expectations when it comes to men。 I'm the yardstick or the calibration unit for her measurement - if I'm off， she'll be off。 Compromising my values and ideals potentially means compromising her future security and relationships。8。 Teach her who God isLove it！ Do this for all your kids dads！9。 Teach her to fightThis goes right back to grit - our children， both sons and daughters， need to learn commitment， persistence， and determination。10。 Keep her connectedAgain， as the most important man， I've got to pursue my daughters to ensure our relationships is strong， it won't happen on its own。 。。。more
Eric Dewyngaert
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As a new father of a 16 month old daughter and potentially another on the way， I am always trying to understand the methods to take to give her the best childhood。 Knowing what my job is and steps I need to take to guide her to being the best version of herself。 Today’s culture and society becomes a giant hurdle for girls and what they should look like， act like， and become。 I know from books such as this that my job is simple， go against everything culture says to her， and make sure she knows I As a new father of a 16 month old daughter and potentially another on the way， I am always trying to understand the methods to take to give her the best childhood。 Knowing what my job is and steps I need to take to guide her to being the best version of herself。 Today’s culture and society becomes a giant hurdle for girls and what they should look like， act like， and become。 I know from books such as this that my job is simple， go against everything culture says to her， and make sure she knows I am always there no matter what。 Dr。 Meeker uses real stories and case experiences to speak to the issues parents face with their daughters， and present solutions that often relate to the father’s relationship with her and his family。 Now after becoming a father my entire focus on life has widened， and I see clearly， thank you to books like these， the tasks at hand。 The methods and ways that I can be the absolute best father to her， that may help her be the best version of herself， and have a good life。 。。。more
Robert
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Great read for a first time father with a daughter on the way。
Brett Chaffins
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Enjoyed the point illustration。 The more important points appeared to be listen to your daughter， show her how to set boundaries by setting boundaries yourself， be protective， spend focused and undistracted time ， and be aware of other people's and the media's influence over her mental development。 Enjoyed the point illustration。 The more important points appeared to be listen to your daughter， show her how to set boundaries by setting boundaries yourself， be protective， spend focused and undistracted time ， and be aware of other people's and the media's influence over her mental development。 。。。more
Gregory Eckert
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Saved my daughters。 Gave me incredible advice on holding the line and stepping up when it comes to one’s daughters！ Great book。 So thankful。 I reread it and took notes！！
David Pulliam
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I listened to this book just after her daughter was born in the late nights of holding her。 It is a bit perfectionistic and as a young father put a lot of pressure， but probably in a good way。 She falls into the trap that if you’re a good dad that you have a good daughter， I dense that life is much more complex than that and that there are plenty of great woman who had awful fathers。 Overall， I found it to be a helpful read and probably the biggest Takeaway is that she encourages fathers to be h I listened to this book just after her daughter was born in the late nights of holding her。 It is a bit perfectionistic and as a young father put a lot of pressure， but probably in a good way。 She falls into the trap that if you’re a good dad that you have a good daughter， I dense that life is much more complex than that and that there are plenty of great woman who had awful fathers。 Overall， I found it to be a helpful read and probably the biggest Takeaway is that she encourages fathers to be highly involved in the daughters lives and realize that daughters depend on fathers to lead them and love them unconditionally。 。。。more
Brett
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As a scared new dad this gave me great advice。 I definitely plan to revisit this book as my daughter grows older。
Jeff Ware
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Fantastic book that gives real straightforward advice to Dads。 Highly recommended
Mark Elworthy
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Working to be a better Dad and open doors for my daughters。
Adam Getchell
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This is a wake-up call to fight hard against the harmful influences of today’s sexualized， hedonistic society。There are specific examples of actions to take， and mindsets to adopt as a father to your daughter。 As well， the consequences of not doing so。Indeed， the hardest point is realizing how much you must change yourself， and doing it， for your family if not for yourself。 The virtues demanded have been under particular attack lately， and the sad results are obvious。 I now think carefully about This is a wake-up call to fight hard against the harmful influences of today’s sexualized， hedonistic society。There are specific examples of actions to take， and mindsets to adopt as a father to your daughter。 As well， the consequences of not doing so。Indeed， the hardest point is realizing how much you must change yourself， and doing it， for your family if not for yourself。 The virtues demanded have been under particular attack lately， and the sad results are obvious。 I now think carefully about the example I set， the time I spend， and the love I show to my spouse and children。 Watching her grow， the perspectives shared in this book have already influenced my interactions with my infant daughter， and as I see her eyes light up when she sees my face， I’m glad for the examples in this book to follow。Sadly， I have also seen self-destructive patterns described that， indeed， trace back to “Daddy issues’。Truth and virtue may not be fashionable， but we must follow and cultivate them nonetheless to have our best family and cope with the inevitable challenges。 This book contains truths from many lives， and it is wise to learn from them。 。。。more
Jessa Bame
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